Memories for Mark

From: Steve BrayMark Hays Photo

It is very sad to hear of Mark's unexpected passing. I met Mark and became friends with him at field trials we both attended. He always was a upbeat and positive person with a ready smile.
One memory that still stands out about Mark above all others was when I was at the Minot trial many years ago waiting around late Sunday evening for the ribbons to be handed out in the Ameteur. When they announced Mark had won the field trial, I can still picture the tremendous joy and exitement in him when I shook his hand and told him that was a great trial he and his dog had just run. We need more people in this world like a Mark Hayes.
He will be missed by many people.

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From: David Lybeck

I am so sad to hear of the death of Mark. What a terrible shocking loss. I will never forget the fun times we had at the ND Retriever Club. Mark came often to judge our trials and run his dogs like Penny for one. God bless the family of Mark. David

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From: Jim and Linda McDowall

We only met Mark two years ago,
but it was long enough to know of Mark's tremendous love for his dogs, the sport of field trialing and the Minot Retriever Club. He will be sorely missed by the club members as well as everyone else in the sport that he had contact with. I will always remember the afternoons after work that we spent working with him on the "Wild Turkey" pen. Our heartfelt sympathies go out to Denise and the rest of his family.

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From: Phil & Nancy Macmillan

Our condolences to Denise and all the family on Mark's sudden and tragic passing. He will be greatly missed by all his dog friends in Canada.

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From: Doug Hoffman - Bismarck

What a heart and neat man. Always had fun being around the labs, and a blast to be shooting with him at the trials. We shall see him in heaven. Best to family. Diana and Doug

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From: Jeff Niedens, family, (and Blackie)

Mark and I hunted together and talked on the phone a lot. The hunting was always good because we both understood that it was about the place you were, the people you were with, and the good dogs, rather than how many birds you were shooting. I will think of Mark when I hunt and see birds on the wing or a beautiful sunrise or Ace(Blackie) make a retrieve.

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From: Jeffrey L. Sheets

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I was a law school class mate of Mark's and was very sorry to hear of this loss. Please let me know if you need anything.

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From: Lee Hays Romano and Family

Our deepest condolences to those friends and family who loved Mark, as we did. As children, he was the next best thing to a brother that I had. It is gratifying to know that in adulthood, he found a loving wife, interesting work, hobbies that he loved enough to turn into a lifestyle, and a love for the great outdoors. He shall be dearly missed.

Lee, Albert and Arielle Romano

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From: Lee E. Armstrong

I'm so sorry to hear about Mark's passing. I graduated law school with Mark in 1992. I spent some time in Minot and ran into Mark a couple of times around town. I can remember driving down Hwy. No. 2 and spotting Mark working his dogs in the little foothills around his place in Burlington. My best wishes for Denise and the rest of the family. Lee E. Armstrong

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From: Tom & Agnes Mitchell

We extend our sympathy, understanding and encourgement to you and your family both now and in the future.

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From: Ann Hutchinson

You are in my thoughts and prayers. Though we are miles apart, please know that you are loved and that your friends are grieving with you. With heartfelt sympathies, Ann

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From: Marg & Tom Murray

Denise and family,
We are so sorry to hear of your tragic loss. We met Mark when he was running June and we were running Gator. He was such a wonderfull person, great friend and determined competitor, always the ready smile.

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From: Suzanne and Gerald Braddock

Our hearts are broken over your loss. Gerald and I will be thinking and praying for you and your family.

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From: David Unkenholz

Mark and I met on the first day of law school at the University of North Dakota School of Law back in 1989. We enjoyed many laughs and stories throughout the ensuing three years of law school. We also had the chance to share time afield chasing birds and watching dogs. Recent years have diminished the amount of contact we had, but not the vivid memories of those glorious days in the field.

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From: Jimmy and Ann Vessell

Rusty, Betsy and family,

Words can not express our heartfelt sympathy in the loss of your son, Mark.
We will continue to keep you in our prayers. May God be with you always.

Jimmy and Ann Vessell

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From: Bob and Mimi Chrystal

Dear Denise and extended Family.
Our thaughts and Prayers are with you, along with our Deepest Sympathy .
Bob and Mimi Chrystal
Winnipeg, Mb.

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From: Vicky Trainor

It was very sad to hear of the sudden and unexpected loss of Mark. I have read many stories and thoughts about him on retrievertraining.net. As a member of the RTF family, Mark will be missed by many.

My deepest condolences to his family, friends and beloved canine companions.

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From: Terry and Carrie Bush

Denise and family; please accept our condolences...
Mark was a great guy and consumate "dog man"...the dogs were always first with him and he had so many great stories to share. He was a person that had it all and was willing to share his knowledge with anyone who asked. He will be missed and the MRC will never be the same without him...

"Dogs are not our whole life, but they make our lives whole." --R. Caras

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From: Lawrence King

I had the pleasure of attending law school with Mark. We were in a study group together (there were actually about 5 of us and occasionally his dog would join us). Mark was a great guy and I am glad I had the opportunity to know him. My thoughts go out to Denise and his whole family.

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From: Nancy Beck

My sympathy is with you in this time of loss....

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From: Ron and Meg Carey

Dear Denise, Rusty, Betsy and Elizabeth,

We are upholding you in prayer as you grieve for Mark.

With love and deepest sympathy,
Ron and Meg Carey.

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From: Chad Engels

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of our friend Mark Hays. He was truly a shining light - full of spirit, energy, and enthusiasm for life. I will remember Mark as someone who always made people smile and feel good about themselves. He was quick with a joke! I knew Mark from field trials, and in a short amount of time came to consider him a friend. Mark was always there to lend a hand at the North Dakota Retriever Club field trials in Fargo, where he has many friends who will miss him. My deepest sympathy to his wife and family, God bless his soul.

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From: Linda Holm

Cousin Denise,

When you were two and I was ten, I loved holding you as if you were my own little sister. I truly wish I could be there to hold you today. I remember meeting Mark for the first time at Detroit Lakes and again at Grandpa s funeral. I remember he had a couple dogs waiting patiently in the truck in New Rockford. I remember my first and lasting impression of Mark was What a fine young man. I am sorry I did not know Mark well at all, and I am heartbroken for you and yours and Mark s family and friends who are so rich for knowing Mark. My deepest condolences and God Bless.
Linda

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From: Trevor Flint - Colorado Springs, CO

Denise and Family,

I send my heartfelt condolences to you all at this difficult time--you are in our thoughts and prayers.

I cannot put to words how sad and heavy hearted I am to learn of Mark's untimely passing. He was a great friend to folks and dogs alike, an outstanding person, and a wonderful mentor, especially to me when I was just getting started in the retriever testing and trialing 'hobby'. I will always remember fondly the many training sessions, work days and field trials at the Minot Retriever Club and how much I enjoyed watching him and June work. He will be missed.

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From: Harry and Sheila Bolick

From us and from the Covenant Sunday School Class of the First Presbyterian Church of Greenville SC - We know this grief is hard to bear, but with the knowledge of God's love, it will surely give your family strength. May the Holy Spirit give you extra strength. Our love goes out to you and the Hayes family.

Rusty and Betsy, you are in our prayers.

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From: Charles and Helen Carlberg

We were so saddened to learn of your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.
Charles and Helen

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From: Ross Sundeen

Denise, I am so sorry to hear about Mark. Mark helped me survive my first year of law school, when he was a second year; and we spent time together after that hunting "rooster birds" in Western North Dakota with Spence and other labs of choice. I saw a bumper yesterday that made me think of Mark. It read "Someday I hope to be half the man my dog thinks I am." Well, Mark was all of that and more. I feel very fortunate to have known him personally and professionally. He will be missed. God bless.

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From: John and Janice McCann

Mark Hays entered our family s life when he swept our daughter Denise off her feet and they began a life together. I remember watching TV the summer they met and seeing an interview with a very self assured southern accented young intern lawyer for a local law firm and later found out this was Denise s Mark. We didn t actually meet him until the following year after Denise had completed law school and moved back to ND. Ironic that a ND girl had to go east to complete her law degree and a boy from the east had come to ND to complete his law degree but regardless their paths crossed and from that time on they traveled the road of life together. He became a son to us and we enjoyed having him around we only wish he could have been with us longer. Who s going to eat the left over mashed potatoes now?

We lovingly called Mark and Denise the Bickerson s because a lot of the time they would take the opposite side of an issue just to get a rise out of the other one. They just agreed to disagree. But it would be hard to find two people who agreed more strongly on the important things and were united. This is evident in their loving and compassionate way Mark and Denise cared for their dogs. Mark maybe put up a tough front in his work because that was the impression he had to create but he was really a softie at heart and that showed when he was around his dogs and his love of nature.

When Mark and Denise decided to start their own law practice and work out of their home we worried that it might be too much togetherness. But now I can see it was the best thing that could have happened. They were able to be together in their home enjoying the rural view with their dogs close by them. They had a type of working retirement for a couple of really good years that many couples wait their whole married life to attain when they retire. God was watching over them.

God grant Mark birds on the wing and a good dog to train.

Mark s ND Mom and Dad

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From: Burton and Kim (Rostad) Maroney

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Burt and Kim

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From: Tammy Kear

Denise,

We were deeply saddened to hear the news about the sudden death of Mark. Bud and I remember you and Mark coming down to Detroit Lakes for family vacations, it was always a fun time. He was a fun guy to be around and had always had a smile on his face. Denise, we will keep you in our thoughts and prayers through this difficult time.

Bud and Tammy

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From: Lauren Tyson

I am so sorry for your loss. May God comfort you in your grieving hours. May Mark rest in peace.
Lauren Tyson, cousin of John McCann

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From: Steve and Cheryl Ashby

May God's loving comfort surround you and your memories sustain you until you are able to see Mark again in God's glorious presence.

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From: Tim and Leslie Rodgers

We, as the Vicksburg Church Family of Rusty and Betsy, have grown to love them so much. Our hearts ache over their loss. We extend our prayers over Rusty, Betsy, Denise, and all of the rest of the family. God bless you all, and we pray that God's grace and comfort will sustain you through this difficult time.

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From: Brian Schulenberg and Family

My family and I had the honor of knowing Mark for the past 13 years. He and I spent a lot of time out in the fields sitting in the early morning next to our favorite duck pond, the "Honey Hole" waiting for the first flock of ducks to come in for the morning. My family and I didn't have a chance to see him for 3 years while we were out of state but I looked forward to getting back to North Dakota this past season so that we could share those times again. Two of the fondest memories I have were when my wife was pregnant with our second child Mark came up with the idea to name the baby Drake Remington so that we might be able to get a free shotgun. The other memorable time was a couple of weeks before Christmas when he came over to the house because we were going Pheasant hunting and when I went down in the basement he had my wife opening one of my presents because he knew she bought me new goose decoys and he wanted to see them. I will miss those days in the field!
and afternoons in the cafe talking and spending time together. Thank you for being a part of our lives and I will miss you.

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From: Ernie & Jude Proctor, Ophelia, VA

Dear Denise,
Although we have not met, we grieve with you, and with Rusty and Betsy, on account of Mark's sudden Homegoing. He was a precious man, a leader, husband, sportsman and advocate. Thankfully, we shall see him again, for "in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet; for the trumpet will sound, and the dead shall be raised imperishable, and we shall be changed...but thanks be to God who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ." 1st Corinthians 15, vv. 52, 57.
You are all in our prayers.

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From: Dan Ness

I am very saddened to hear of Marks Passing. The twelve or so years i knew Mark every minute of it was a joy. Marks knowledge of the field trial game and his willingess to share his knowledge to beginners in the sport, like myself was second to none. My first major stake ribbon was at Minot and i remember Mark walking clear across the grounds to shake my hand and congratulate me. Mark will be missed dearly by all of us in the sport but Mark will never be forgotten.
Dan Ness

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From: Mark & Candi Buckner

Denise & Family,

We are so shocked and saddened to learn of your loss. We met Mark during our dog-training days in Minot and he always had helpful hints for our training and such a love for the dogs. We'll always remember the long hours spent at the Retriever Club and how Mark would be there in all kinds of weather with his dogs.
Please know that you're in our thoughts and prayers. We hope that you can find comfort in knowing how many people (and animals) have been touched my Mark's generosity.
May God bless and comfort you all...

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From: Bud & Tammy

Denise,

We were deeply saddened to hear the news about the sudden death of Mark. Bud and I remember you and Mark coming down to Detroit Lakes for family vacations, it was always a fun time. He was a fun guy to be around and had always had a smile on his face. Denise, we will keep you in our thoughts and prayers through this difficult time.

Bud and Tammy

 

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From: Mark & Lucy Burks

Dear Denise and family;

We are so sorry to hear of Mark's passing; we lift you up in prayer that you may know God's Love & Comfort in your time of grief.

With deepest sympathies and love,

Mark & Lucy Burks

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From: Susan @ Souris Valley Humane Society

Denise:
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this most difficult time.

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From: Kelly & Lauri Sorensen

Denise and Family:

Our family sends our most hearfelt sympathies to you and your family. You've been in our thoughts and prayers over these past few weeks and we continue to ask God to help you through those tough days ahead.

Kelly thouroughly enjoyed working with you Denise and assisting you with your arrangements. I had the pleasure of working with both you and Mark at P&H and have many wonderful memories and will remember the warm smile Mark always had.

Remember one thing that Mark was not "Alone" he had one of his (mans) best friends at his side.

Thinking of you and take care...

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From: Joe and Carol Payne

To Betsy and Dr. Russell Hays - we love you, we respect and miss you very much from First Presbyterian Church, Greenville, SC. This tragedy is so sad, our prayers and thoughts of love are with you moment by moment. Know that we are your Christian friends and grieve with you for your loss of this beautiful son. God's blessings upon you both. Carol & Joe Payne

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From: Laura Kay and Fred Peyton

Dear Betsy and Rusty, We are so so sorry about your loss of your dear son, Mark. Our entire church family is grieving with you, and we are praying fervently that you and Denise and all your family experience God's great peace and comfort at this difficult time. We will continue to pray, and we will all be here for you when you return to Vicksburg. Much love, Laura Kay and Fred

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From: Dennis Danculovich

Dear Denise and Family,
Please accept my deepest sympathy on the loss of your beloved Mark. He was truely one of the nicest, down to earth people I have ever had the pleasure to know. His love for his family, life and his dogs was evident to all who called him a friend. I guess the Good Lord needed someone to take his Dogs to the Line, in his selfishness he picked the the "BEST".
Deepest Sympathies,
Dennis and Tru

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From: Lynn Troy & Bo Taylor

Our thoughts and prayers go out to you Denise and family. Mark will be missed as he was a big part of the retriever world. He was always there to help and brought people together.

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From: Charles and Yvonne Hays

As big a shock as it was for us in the field trial community to learn of Mark's untimely passing, we are sure it must be very difficult for his family. Hopefully, you can find comfort in knowing he had many friends and was well respected. Please accept our heartfelt sympathy.
Yvonne and Charles Hays

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From: George Goodwin

My thoughts are with you during this period, Rusty. My deepest felt sympathy for you and your family.
George

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