Memories for Gary

From: Lindsey Doubek

I was saddened to read about Mr. Stenehjem's passing, but as I read his obituary I couldn't help but remember the great times I had in Jim Hill Band. He was a wonderful teacher and he had a real love for his students and music.

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From: Joan Haaland Paddock

Gary is the reason why I became a musician. When I first met Gary, it was in 1973 when he was teaching at Jim Hill Junior High School. My brother had gone to school there, played the trumpet, and now the trumpet was in a closet at home. Gary called me in to his office one day (half year) and asked me if I would like to learn to play that trumpet and join the band. He was so encouraging...and fun! I learned a lot that half year before Gary moved to Central Campus in Minot. I loved music and listened to fine trumpeters (as Gary had suggested to me). Gary came back a year later to audition trumpeters for his 9th grade band. I played a tune by ear that I had on a recording. That tune was the 2nd movement of the Haydn Trumpet Concerto. Gary had planted the seeds of "how to play" "how to practice" and "how to listen - and to whom." During the next few years, I took private lessons with Mr. Stenehjem. Five students went to him to ask for music coaching - these five students were Brad, Kyle, Clyde, Mitch and Joan. We formed a brass quintet and played together for 3 years, I think it was. Gary took time out of his busy schedule to help us find music, listen to us, give us coaching, and share in our excitement of making music. Gary encouraged me to go to the International Music Camp. This has come full circle as I did go (couldn't stay away! - one year I went for 6 weeks. I still have all the letters from friends and family during that time I was away from home. Many of those letters were signed GAS.) After I had completed a masters degree in music (trumpet performance) I was invited to teach trumpet at the camp and in later years I conducted the Mountie and Ranger Band. This summer I will return to teach trumpet for two weeks, and my two children will go to the International Music Camp for the first time. Gary planted that seed many, many years ago. His inspiration to me has gone on through countless others with whom I have been in contact as teacher and coach as I too chose the profession of music. Gary played trumpet and organ at my wedding.... for several years he has loaned trumpets to me when I was visiting Minot and couldn't bring them all while traveling from Oregon; Gary was very generous - always. To the family, I express my sympathy in your loss but I also wish to celebrate the life of this leader, teacher, and friend. I express praise and thanks for his life as he had such a great influence on me. I love him and I will miss him - he will live on through his many students which span the generations. Minot has lost a great "leader of the band" - but what they gained while he was living his life and mission in music in Minot is priceless. Hats off to Gary Stenehjem and thanks to God for his life and contributions! Sincerely,

Joan Haaland Paddock

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From: Kirk Roos

Mr. Stenehjem was the reason I joined jazz band, and the reason I stuck it out all through high-school. He was a great leader, and made band fun! Not just by his excellent instruction, though, but by his enthusiasm to jump in and play with us. During marching practice he'd often play along with his trumpet.

As a trumpet player myself, and a pretty shy kid at the time, he gave me great encouragement to challenge myself.

In later years, we lived close to his house on 16th street, so he and I would often chat, he was a great, fun, wonderful spirit!

We will miss him, dearly.

Kirk Roos

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From: John M Brey

To the family of Gary Stenehjem my symathy in the
lost of your loved one. I got to know Gary years ago thru bowling and remained friends thru the years.
John Brey

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From: Tracy Witham

As a former student of "Mr. Stenehjem," I admired his ability as a musician, his dedication as a teacher, and his enthusiasm in bringing the best out of his student bands. Returning to Minot for visits, it was a special treat to hear him play organ at First Lutheran.

He was certainly one of a kind, and enriched the lives of all his students. I will miss him.

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From: Donna Mindt

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this most difficult time. I was one of Gary's band students at Central Campus. I remember those cold band days in Williston & Bismarck & then of course selling those "wonderful" fruitcakes to have money to go on those trips. He was a great teacher& always had a smile on his face even during those chemo treatments. May you find peace & comfort in all the memories you have of Gary. God Bless

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From: Jim & Gail Lein

Sorry for your loss, our loss, the community's loss. But May 2 is not The Day the Music Died. Gary's example and instruction have helped keep it alive in all of us, including the non-music-major members of the Brass Band. He shared his significant musical talent in a way that brought much more music out of us than we could have done on our own.

May he rest in peace.

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From: capt Ken Rotter

It was an extreme privlige to have known and played with Gary.

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From: Krista (Gilbertson) Fodera

Mr. Stenehjem, you will be truely missed. Thank you for your dedication and love for music. I have so many good memories from being in your class. Thank you for being my teacher.

Krista (Gilbertson) Fodera

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From: Mark and Kathy (Darling) Lillemon

We have so many fond memories of Gary. May he rest in peace.

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From: Dale G. Niewoehner

I was sorry to read of Gary's death. Frater Gary was a member of the Epsilon Omega chapter of TKE, as was I.
I enjoyed his music.
Dale G. Niewoehner - Rugby

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From: Jack Wiley

I am sorry to hear about Gary's passing. We taught together at Jim Hill Jr. High from 1969-74. I was the swimming teacher who had my class go get him from his class & throw him into the swimming pool. Shame on me, but those were fun memories. I always played pranks on him, he was a wonderful person. Our Regards to the family for the loss. Regards, Jack & Sue Wiley

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From: Jason Hovde

I will always remember Mr. Stenehjem helping me to learn the trumpet at Jim Hill School. I started band later than most of the kids, but he helped me catch up and pushed me to do my best. I will always have fond memories of him.

With Sympathies,
Jason Hovde

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From: Greg Darling

I am very sorry to hear that Gary has passed. He was a close friend of my family since the late 60's when we moved to Minot. I enjoyed playing with Gary in the Minot Elks Band, and the ND State American Legion Band. We will always have fond memories of him and he will be missed.

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From: Kris Shipley

Gary's many talents will be missed by all at First Lutheran Church.

Personally, we will miss driving down 16th, tooting the horn and waving at Gary as he sits relaxing in his chair.

Please know our thoughts and prayers are with you during this time.

Kris Shipley & kids

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From: Michelle Larson

I am so sorry for your loss. Mr. Stenehjem was my junior high band director back in the 70's at Jim Hill. He was always one of my favorite teachers, even though he made you work hard at your music. I've also been a member of First Lutheran Church since my marriage in 1986 and have been fortunate to hear his beautiful music throughout the years. He will be greatly missed.

Michelle Larson

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From: gayle sandvik arnson

My sympathies for your loss. I did my student teaching with Gary at Jim Hill. He always had a smile when we would run into each other.

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From: Mardi Taft Bolinske

I was a student in the band at Central Campus during the time Mr. Stenehjem taught there. I was the only female trombonist in my class (1978), and he always made sure I was treated respectfully by the other trombone players in the section. The band days are fun memories for me, and Mr. Stenehjem is part of those memories that I will keep forever. My thiughts and prayers go to his entire family.
Fondly,
Mardi (Taft) Bolinske

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From: Julie Lafontaine-Wallace

I have very fond memories of Gary as my instructor when I played in the MHS Band for my highschool years when I graduated in 1981. He also played the trumpet at my wedding in 1985. Another classmate I talked with Greg Goetz would like to convey his sympathy and he has also said he will miss him dearly, he was a great guy and he has very fond memories of Gary. Our sincere sympathy to the family.

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From: Huwe family

Our sincere condolences to the Stenehjem family. All three of our children Marshall, Yolonda and Matthew Huwe were greatly enriched by Gary's teaching and musical talents.
We were blessed to have him share his talents in all of our lives. May God richly bless his memories.

Franklin and Evelyn Huwe

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From: Teri and Michael Tingley

Our deepest sympathies to the Stenehjem family. I participate in the Minot Community Concert band and when I first joined the band, Gary was the director. I am certain that he will be missed by many, and he will definitely be missed by me! With great fondness, Teri Tingley

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From: Sarah Hanley

Mr. Stenehjem was an inspiration to me and many, many others. His spirit will live on forever in our appreciation of all kinds of music. I will always remember junior high band fondly because of him.

With sympathy,
Sarah Hanley

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From: Heidi Luithle

Mr. Stenehjem was a great music teacher! He will truly be missed, I rememeber when I was an 8th grader and Mr. Stenejem was retiring from Jim Hill he sold his garfield posters and old jim hil band t-shirts. I was not in band but in choir, and he would sub a few times, however if you were involved in music you knew him. I also remember one of our choir/band concerts he had given a student the opp to conduct the band, that student knew nothing about conducting and Mr. Stenehjem had alot of time to just love on his students! I graduated in 2000 and everytime I would see Mr. Stenehjem we would not just have a "HI" he would usually ask about how things are going and if I am still in Music... I have a little boy now and a few years back Mr. Stenehjem saw him and he gave me words of advice to get my son who now loves music as well! I'm sure I could go on for hours about this Great Music Man.... My deepest Sympathy goes to the family and the thousands of People who have been taugh!
t and touched by one of the BESST MUSIC MEN EVER!!! May Our thoughts and Prayers be with you through this GREAT LOSS. We love you Mr. Stenehjem..... your music will live in the Hearts of Many!!!!
Love the Luithle's
Aaron Luithle (6-9th choir)
Heidi Luithle (6-12th choir)Zackariah Luithle & son

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From: Jennifer Smith Claerbout

Mr. Stenehjem musically inspired me in so many ways. I'm very sorry to learn about his death.

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From: Guy Cresap

Mr Stenehjem was my teacher at Central Campus in the 70s. He was a kind considerate man and I was honored to have been a small part of his life.
Guy Cresap

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From: Julie McBride

Dear Margaret and Arne and family.
I was so sorry, to learn of Gary's passing.He shared his many musical gifts with so many to enjoy.He will be a musical angle in his heavenly home.My thought's and prayers are with you during this sad time.Blessing to each of you. Julie

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From: Julie (Hanson) Thrailkill

My husband and I wanted to send our sympathies to Gary's family. Not only did I have Gary as a teacher but he also played at our wedding. I am sure you have heard this several times. Gary did alot for the community and his church and he will be missed. God Bless

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From: Nathan Hance

I took trumpet lessons from Mr. Stenehjem during middle and high school(2000-2006) and enjoyed learning so much from this great man. I was especially grateful that he got me to play in the Brass Band and I loved playing under his direction; he brought so much knowledge and humor to the podium. He will be greatly missed.

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From: Wayne Naas

Dear Margaret and Family,
I was at Minot State Teachers College with Gary from 1960-1964. Please accept my condolences. The impact that he had on the community is truly incredible. Considering the number of students that he had, the number of folks that he got to dance, and the number of congregants that he forced to sing to his wonderful organ playing is a HUGE number of people who were affected by his wonderful abilities. We were good buddies in college. We did not agree politically at all, but we were able to rise above that. You have been an incredible sibling. I got a Christmas letter from Gary this year-as always-and he expressed his appreciation to you for the wonderful support that you provided during his hospitalization at the Mayo Clinic. You provided the support that represents the very best of what "family" means. I know that the loss of your only sibling is very painful. May you be comforted by the fact that you gave Gary such support when he was in need.
I'm sure that his funeral will give you some idea of the impact that he had on the Minot community. He was a person who gave of himself in an unstinting manner, and his legacy will live long beyond his years.
Find comfort in the testimony that his students, colleagues, and friends will provide during this very sad time. I remember while we were at MSTC how often he spoke of you-and always in such warm terms. He truly loved his sister.
May you feel the blessings of his life and be comforted in the outpouring of good will that accompanies his death.
I plan to return to North Dakota in June. I certainly expected to see Gary. That is not to be. However, I will see other folks who knew him in his music circle, and we will raise a toast to a life well lived.
He was a wonderful credit to your family. May you gain comfort in that fact.
Sincerely,
Wayne Naas

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From: Sheldon Sime

My Deepest sympathy for the Stenehjem Family. He was my teacher at Jim Hill and Central Campus. I will always remember after graduation when i would see him i would call him Mr. Stenehjem and he would insist i call him Gary because he would say that he was know longer my teacher but my friend. Also was always a good sport.I remember the days when Mr.Wiley our swimming teacher would have us all go get him out of his class across the hall and throw him in the pool. Its ironic because i was just telling my wife about that the other day. He will be greatly missed by all.

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From: Andrew Beaumont

Mr. Stenehjem's enthusiasm and passion for music and life was infectious. He challenged myself and other members of the bands at Central Campus in ways that made us better musicians and better people. It's no stretch to say that he laid the foundation for what became many award-winning performances at Minot High.

When I still lived in Minot and we ran into each other, we would laugh and reminisce.

Among my memories will be the stacks and stacks of cases of Tab in his office, hanging out in the music department after school just because he would let us, and all the fun we had on those bus rides to march in parades elsewhere in N.D.

Andrew Beaumont
MHS Class of 84

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From: Bob Fraley

I was a student of Gary's in the late '70s, both in private lessons and band at Minot's Central Campus. Gary's positive influence has shaped many young people over the years, especially mine. In his own way, he made the world a better place and he will definitely be missed.

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From: Wendel A. VanWechel

My deepest sympathy to Gary's family! I met Gary for the first time at the ND State American Legion Convention last year in Minot. I am a member of the ND American Legion State Band, Euphonium section.

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From: Shelly Trueblood

With my deepest symphathy to the family and Marty. I am Marty's groomer at 4-Paws Grooming and did not know Gary had passed until now. I recently had eye surgery and was unable to see to read clearly. I will miss seeing Gary and also his freindly voice. It will not be the same as I see him walking Marty all the time. I hope that Marty is doing fine and someone is taking good care of him also.

With deepest symphathy,

Shelly

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From: Bruce & Loreen Jorgensen

Very sorry to hear about Gary. We knew Gary for many years with the American Legion. Bruce was in the Drum & Bugle with Gary. Gary also taught my daugthers at Jim Hill school. We will truly miss him.

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From: Bruce & Loreen Jorgensen

Our hearts are with you

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